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Parenting Towards Partnership (Part 1)

In Parenting on Tuesday, March 10, 2009 at 8:49 pm

Parenting shifts into different seasons as the kids grow up. It’s amazing how things change, and in just a short time. You may remember the diapers or the getting-into-everything times, or how about driving to all the activities that you could get your child into? You may still be living those times. If you are, cherish those times and invest time into your kids. It will pay off when they get older.

 

Harry Chapin wrote a song called “Cats in the Cradle” that talks about a relationship between a dad and his son.  The song reveals the relationship from the cradle to being grown. There is one part in the last verse that hits hard on the way we raise our children. It goes:  And as he hung up the phone it occurred to me, He’d grown up just like me, my boy, was just like me.

 

That song was an indictment on a father that didn’t spend time with his boy while he was growing up. The choice is ours: to invest or not, into the most precious resource we are entrusted with. Do you want that child to grow up just like you?

 

What about when they become teenagers?  Do you want that time to pass fast because you don’t know how to relate?

 

I’m convinced that it is never too late to spend time with your kids no matter their age.  It’s all about relationship.

 

I’ll write next time about what I’m finding the rewards to be in parenting toward partnership.

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Dirk

My Mother is a Waiter

In Lifestyle, Moms on Monday, March 9, 2009 at 8:26 pm

Whenever any of my brothers and sisters got injured or were sick while we were growing up, I always remembered these words come out of my mother’s mouth, “Well, let’s wait and see.”

 

My mother is a waiter.

 

This is not a bad thing of course, as there are plenty of injuries or sicknesses that do not need emergency medical attention.  It is a bad thing though, if it is something critical. I remember when I was about 12 or so, my brother Jacob broke his leg playing on the neighbor’s trampoline. My mom was at the garden and I had to convince her that his leg was definitely broken.   Other than major injuries, : ) she was always good at diagnosing and taking care of non-emergency situations. (There were only 3 emergency trips from the 7 of us).

 

I thought it might be helpful for those moms that are waiters and for those that race to the emergency room at the slightest break in skin, to list some criteria that warrants a visit to the ER as well as some that can stand to be taken care of at home. 

 

Reasons to go to the ER:

 

–You or your child has a temperature of 104F that is unrelieved by Tylenol or Motrin AND you cannot get in to see your regular doctor

 

–You or your child has a laceration that needs sutures. For example, very deep or a split like across the eyebrow AND you cannot get in to see your regular doctor

 

–You or your child has a suspected broken bone and there is obvious deformity or unbearable pain when trying to move it AND you cannot get in to see your doctor.

 

–You or your child sustains a head injury, with loss of consciousness and are confused when they wake up, for example, ask the same questions over and over again or has slurred speech or just isn’t making sense AND you cannot get in to see your doctor

 

–You or your child is having an allergic reaction, breaking out in hives, getting short of breath, etc. 

 

–You or your loved one has a sudden onset of chest pain that makes you short of breath, nauseas or radiates to your arms, shoulders or back (especially for women), that is unrelieved by antacids or rest, and you have a history of heart or cholesterol problems

 

–You or your loved one are having any trouble breathing, have a history of asthma, coughing especially at night, chest tightness, pain or pressure, wheezing, very rapid breathing, difficulty talking because of shortness of breath, feelings of anxiety or panic, pale or sweaty face, blue tinged lips or fingernails.

These are signs of an asthma attack, or could be of any type of breathing difficulty. It is especially important to be attentive to these signs in children as risk for respiratory arrest is increased in a child with asthma.

 

And many others….but please use common sense!

 

Reasons not to go to the ER:

 

–You think a bug flew in your ear and you want to see if it got in your brain

–You have a splinter or a paper cut that takes a microscope to even see

–You have a fever and you have not taken Tylenol or Motrin

–You have a runny nose

–You can’t find the contact in your eye

–You have the common cold

–You think you are pregnant

–If any of your complaints are followed with the words “for a few months”

Example: “I have had a cough . . . for a few months”

 

 

Are you a waiter or do you jump to the ER at any sign of sickness?

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Katie (who works in the ER)

Dealing with Disappointment

In Parenting on Sunday, March 8, 2009 at 8:36 pm

Recently I attended a talent show audition where about 35 youth were performing their various skills in hopes of winning one of the 5 top places.  Only 5 people or groups would be chosen to go on to the next level.   All these kids poured their hearts into what they were doing and many were disappointed when they weren’t selected as one of the top 5. 

 

It got me to thinking.  I wondered how their parents helped them walk through the disappointment.  In fact, I actually did overhear one parent telling her child, “It was rigged.”  It made me wonder if that response would affect the way this child handled disappointments later in life.

 

So?  How do you help your children overcome disappointments? What would your words have been if your child had not been one of the top 5 in the talent show?

 How do you deal with disappointments in your own life?

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Robin

It’s Spring!

In Gardening on Thursday, March 5, 2009 at 11:00 pm

Asparagus crowns going into the garden

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Soon these will be green onions, a LOT of them! 

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Potatoes are in the ground

Lettuce, spinach and peas will go in this week.

Time to prune the rosebushes and crepe myrtles. 

Plant shade grass this month

Fertilize already existing shade grass

Scalp Bermuda this month

Begin clearing flower beds of leaves and spring weeds.

Plant perennials this  month and next

WATER everything!  We are extremely dry in Oklahoma right now.

Along with the daffodils, the cherry bushes and peach trees are beginning to bloom.  It’s spring!

 

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Planning some outdoor work this weekend?

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Robin

A Love Story

In Lifestyle, Moms on Thursday, March 5, 2009 at 12:49 am

I love having my kids home with me and doing fun art projects. I don’t love when one of them disobeys and picks up a whole pint of yellow tempera paint and drops it on the floor splashing it up on walls and leaving a saturated pool of yellow paint in the carpet!
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I love that when a certain child drops this whole pint of paint that I can call Mimi Meadows sobbing and she comes and helps me clean and saves her poor grandson from being killed. I don’t love that after 3 hours of working on this yellow stain that it still remains a huge yellow stain resembling a pool of dog urine right in the middle of the floor!
 
I love that after giving up and letting it sit for three weeks that this certain product Clorox Oxi Magic catches my eye at Crest and gives me one last hope for my pee-stained-looking floor. And after scrubbing it in and having it work I love it even more!
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I don’t love that I forgot to vacuum it right after cleaning the floor like the instructions said (I didn’t get the point of that anyway – at the time) and when I go to vacuum a few days later I think my vacuum has exploded because Clorox Oxi Magic dust is flying all around. Oops. Hope those fumes didn’t mess with me too much. I think I’m still normal.

Do you have a favorite cleaning product? Or a paint disaster story?

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Erin

 

 

When a Lion or Bear Comes…

In Scripture Thoughts on Tuesday, March 3, 2009 at 9:43 pm

lion-roaring-in-the-wild-photographic-print-c12197429_ivhjI Sam 17:34  “…when a lion or bear comes”

David conquered a lion and a bear before he ever met Goliath, before he was ever chosen as King of Israel. 

 

Just imagine the initial fear David must have had.  And maybe he missed with those stones a few times, only injuring the animal.  Maybe he even failed a few times.

I wonder…did God send that lion?  And the bear? 

I think so.

David needed to know he could conquer a lion, by God’s power, before he would ever presume he could conquer Goliath.

And so, the lion was a blessing.  It was God’s opportunity.

Every difficult and hard thing that comes along in our life is God’s opportunity to show us we can do things far beyond our own limitations.

May God open our eyes to see His blessings beneath the coverings of our troubles, trials and temptations. 

 

What is your lion right now?  By God’s strength and power, are you conquering it, or is it conquering you?

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Robin

Weary

In Scripture Thoughts on Monday, March 2, 2009 at 10:15 pm
Read this in a very whiney frustrated voice:

 

I often find myself so dang weary from life.  Sometimes I just want to screw it all (can I say that on the ManyMeadows’ blog?) and just give up on all the striving.  I mean, does everything in life have to be so hard???  There’s nothing I do that just comes easy. 

 

I’m so tired of having to eat healthy to stay thin, having to workout to have a good body, having to save money to buy a house I can actually afford, having to cook good-tasting-affordable-healthy meals (all with less than the best quality of products and/or utensils -due to saving money), having to hold myself in check with my kids since I am with them ALL THE TIME, having to meet my husband’s needs so many times when I’m just too tired and ready to wind down, having to clean the SAME things in the house DAY after DAY, having to wash, dry and fold the EXACT same laundry I do WEEK after WEEK, having to read my Bible OVER and OVER because I just don’t get it, blah, blah, blah.

 

And then, look at all these other people in life…. just floating by…. no worries, and yet, doesn’t it seem like things come so easy for them, that they have it all together?  That is so not fair!  I work my butt off to get everything I have, and make sure I do it the right way!  Why can’t I just throw my hands up and forget about it like so many others seem to? 

 

Whew!  OK….I’m done. 

 

But, this is where I find myself many a time if I am striving to do these things with my own will and for myself.  All of these things that I complained about above are things that God has called me to and to have excellence for in my life.  These are good things, things that God calls many a righteous woman to do.  But, with the wrong attitude they are for nothing! 

 

A scripture I hold very close to my heart is, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Gal. 6:9.  When I start to feel weariness, comparisons with other people, moaning, whining, etc. coming into my attitude, God holds me in check.  It’s not that He doesn’t want me to strive for excellence in these areas; He wants me to do them unto Him and for all His glory, only worrying about what He has called ME to do.

 

Maybe you have other areas you grow weary in or strive for.  What are those areas and how do you stay focused on doing it unto Him?

 

 

 

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Erin

Dear Robin

In Dear Robin on Sunday, March 1, 2009 at 9:20 pm

Dear Robin,

 

My barely seven-year-old son seems to constantly have his hands down his pants.  Not in public, but at home.  My husband and I are always telling him, get your hands out of your pants and go wash your hands”. 

 

Do you have any suggestions to help him stop this habit?

 

What are your suggestions for this mom?

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Robin

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